My insecurity, I guess...

I was watching one of those morning shows the other day and the topic was a debate on how should you accept the relics of your partners past relationships. On one side was the mindset that if your married, then both you and your partner ought to toss out the old love letters and such, creating room for each other. On the other hand, the ruling majority said that was unacceptable. Their question was: how can you possible ask, or demand that your husband/wife throw out pieces of themselves to appease your insecurities.
How I see it, when I was being first wooed by my husband, I went through my boxes, my photos and computer files in attempt to delete my past mistakes (relationships), praying that I could delete the memories too. And after we were married and I was settling in, I did it nervously because I still feared I had missed something, somewhere. I did this, not so much for my husband but for myself. You see, I was and am still ashamed and deeply grieved for giving all of who I was to someone who couldn't love me, because I wasn't purposed for them. They were not the husband that God had made for me and I for them. So to me, the idea of a husband or wife still clinging onto, and avoiding throwing out those love notes and such is a shame and a dishonor to their spouse, whose heart no doubtably breaks every time they come across photos or pieces of paper lamenting over their spouses love for someone else and their deep desire to marry them.